A crash course in the lexicon of the erotic world. 

Afterglow Noun

That sweet-smug look she had at breakfast this morning.

Afterglow is the wonderful, satisfied, feeling you experience immediately after good sex.

Alpha Sub Noun

Leader of the subs. Oh, the irony.

If a dominant chooses to have more than one submissive then they may chose to label one of them the alpha sub, meaning they have the greatest amount of power among the other submissives.

Anal Beads Noun

Do not wear them around your neck.

Anal beads are a series of beads knotted into place along a string or thin stem of plastic or silicone. They come in an array of sizes and materials – match them to your shoes if you wish. The beads are inserted, one at a time, into the anus and then removed (singly or all at once) to heighten sexual pleasure.

Aphrodisiac Noun

Oysters, chocolate, Ryan Gosling.

An Aphrodisiac is any item, often a food, which arouses or intensifies sexual desire.

Balconette Bra Noun

Sounds like balcony because it makes for a great view.

Also known as a shelf bra, a balconette bra has a horizontal bust line that promotes lift and cleavage from beneath the breast, typically without the use of padding. Instead of pushing the breasts together a balconette bra lifts the breasts up. Very sexy.

BDSM Abbreviation

Tying things up in one neat little acronym.

An overlapping abbreviation of Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), Sadism and Masochism (SM). 

Ben Wa Balls Noun

They always said exercise made you feel good.

Ben Wa balls are small round balls that are used for strengthening the vaginal wall and/or for sexual stimulation. These balls are generally hollow and contain a small weight inside. Ben Wa balls are inserted into a woman's vagina and are held there using the pelvic floor muscle. Women do this anywhere from one minute, to an entire day.

See also: Kegal Exercises

Bondage Verb

I hope you’re good at untying knots.

Bondage refers to the physical or symbolic constriction of any part of the body as a part of erotic play. It’s a sexual activity in which a person is bound while another disciplines or punishes them. For example you might be tied up and whipped, spanked or verbally punished.

Bralette Noun 

Little and lacy. 

An unlined, soft cup bra that offers light support. These bras don’t have underwire or padding and offer a delicate, feminine look.

Bullet Vibrator Noun

Good things come in small packages. Or because of them.

A small, battery-operated vibrator that resembles a large bullet or egg. Bullet vibrators can be carried discreetly in ones bag and are used for both clitoral and internal stimulation.

Chiffon Noun

Dry clean only darling.

Chiffon is a sheer silk material that is ultra-lightweight but still very strong. Chiffon comes from the French word for "rag" because it has a slightly rough feel to it, but it’s sexy and luxurious in appearance. 

Convertible (bra straps)Verb

A woman likes to have options.

A convertible bra has straps that unhook so that they can be rearranged into a variety of formations, including crisscross, halter, one shoulder, and strapless. Not all convertible bras are capable of all the options, so be sure to consult the item description to make sure the strap configuration you want is there.

Cooling Lubricant Noun

Ice, ice baby.

An alternative to warming lubricants, designed to promote a cooling and tingling sensation that is heightened when touched or blown on. Most lubricants are made from a water-soluble formula. They work to reduce friction between body parts, or between body parts and other objects. This allows for ease of penetration.

Couples Vibrator Noun

Pleasure shared is pleasure doubled.

Technically any vibrator can be used by a couple, but some are designed specifically for partner play. Vibrating cock rings and the LELO We-Vibe, are specifically designed to be used during intercourse to provide clitoral stimulation. Women are often unable to orgasm through penetrative intercourse alone, so the addition of a couples vibrator can help them reach climax.

Cunnilingus Verb

Trying to say it is a good warm up routine.

Cunnilingus is the act of oral sex on a female. Put simply – it’s every person’s sacred and cherished duty to his or her significant other. Not doing this doing is like having a Ferrari you only politely drive in street traffic.

Deep Throat Verb

What gag reflex?

A slang term for a type of oral sex in which a partner is able to overcome his or her gag-reflex and allow the penis to go deeply into their mouth, and sometimes down their throat.

Demi Cup Noun

More than a handful.

A demi cup has a contoured underwire design and a large portion of the cup is cut away to expose the upper part of the breasts. The shoulder straps are also set farther apart. Such bras are often referred to as being décolleté‚ and are worn when the top of a garment is cut low, wide or square.

Denier Level Noun

What you see is what you get.

The measurement standard used by hosiery companies to describe the weight and thickness of nylon yarn. The lower the denier number, the thinner the yarn and the more sheer the fabric.

Dildo Noun

They’ve come a long way.

Dildos are a common sex toy used for penetration. They come in a variety of shapes, sizes, styles and colours.

See also: Harness.

Dominant Noun

The power play.

A person who assumes the powerful role in sadomasochistic play. A dominant is a sexual participant who takes on the role of the superior, often controlling or giving orders to submissives. A female dominant is commonly referred to as a domme or mistress, while a male dominant is commonly referred to as a dom or master. 

Erogenous Zone Noun

That’s the spot.

Any area of the body that is especially sensitive to sexual stimulation and touching. Erogenous zones are not limited to between ones legs. Think inner thighs, nape of the neck and ears.

Exhibitionism Noun

Take my picture.

Achieving or enhancing sexual arousal by being seen nude, partially clothed, or in the course of sexual acts.

Fellatio Noun

Watch the teeth.

Fellatio is a polite term used to describe the oral stimulation of a man’s penis. Fellatio may involve but is not limited to licking, sucking, kissing and hand stimulation. Fellatio is all about exploring the penis, especially the tender head and the soft skin of the shaft. Also known as a blow- job or head.

Fetish Noun

What lovely feet you have.

An object or part of the body that arouses sexual desire and may become necessary for sexual gratification. People can develop a sexual preoccupation with a specific objects- for example he has a foot fetish.

Flagellation Noun

There’s a fine line between pleasure and pain.

Flagellation is the act of whipping or flogging a person. It is typically used as a punishment for disobedient submissives, and the physical discomfort this act causes can be very erotic and sexually stimulating. Often toys such as whips and cat o' nine tails are used.

Frottage Noun

Oh to be a teenager again.

The act of rubbing against the body of another person for sexual pleasure. This is often called non-genital rubbing. You can be clothed or naked but there is no penetration involved.

Harness Noun

Not for horses, but definitely for riding.

Also known as a strap-on, a dildo harness fits around your hips and holds a dildo in place against your pubic bone so you can penetrate a partner vaginally or anally. Today’s harnesses come in a variety of styles, including leather and sporty webbing.

Kama Sutra Noun

Bedtime reading.

An ancient text that provides instruction in sexual technique and performance. It was compiled by the Indian sage Vatsyayana sometime between the second and fourth centuries A.D, but its advice remains relevant today.

Kegal Exercises Noun

Squeeze and release.

A set of exercises designed to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles that surround the genitals and thereby increase sexual pleasure and awareness. Both men and women can do kegal exercises.

See also: Ben Wa Balls 

Love Ring Noun

More fun than a diamond.

A ring, usually made of rubber or leather, that is worn at the base of the penis to prolong a man’s erection by restricting blood flow out of the penis. Penis rings can also have vibrating attachments designed to stimulate the clitoris during sex.

Lubricant Noun


A slick, gel-like substance used to reduce friction during sexual activity. Some lubricants are water-based and therefore safe to use with latex. Some are silicone-based, which is slicker and longer-lasting, but incompatible with silicone toys.

Martymachlia Noun

Better than television.

Similar to exhibitionism, martymachlia refers to sexual arousal from being watched during sex or exposing oneself in public. Some people also derive sexual pleasure from watching others have sex. The act can occur either be in real time or via webcam or video.

Masochism Noun

Pleasure is pain.

A sexual variation in which one derives sexual pleasure from experiencing pain. This is very common in Dominant/Subordinate relationships.

Multiorgasmic Adjective


To have a succession of orgasms during one period of time without a refractory period. Both men and women are capable of multiple-orgasms but it is more common in women.  

The P-spot Noun

Find it.

The P-spotis the male counterpart to the female G-spot. It gets its name from the prostate, which is a muscular gland that surrounds the neck of the bladder. To P-spot is best stimulated by inserting a finger or vibrator into the anus and pushing gently toward the front of the body.

Paddle Noun

Bend over, baby.

A paddle is a sex toy with a handle and two flat sides. They are usually made of leather or wood. Paddles are often used as part of bondage to spank partners on the bottom. In BDSM, pain is used as a way to enhance sensation, and therefore, pleasure.

Psycholagny Noun

No hands.

Psycholagny is a sexual term that refers to the ability to orgasm without physical stimulation. This is usually achieved through mental stimulation and fantasy.

Sapiosexual Noun

Brains over beauty.

One who finds intelligence the most sexually attractive feature.

Submissive Noun

Yes, Master.

A person in a BDSM relationship who submits to the dominant person. A submissive derives pleasure from being punished and dominated. They take orders from their dominant.

Tex-sex Noun

What opposable thumbs were made for.

Similar to having phone sex; but instead of verbally communicating what you’d like to be doing to your partner, you send text messages.   

Thigh Highs Noun

Go well with heels.

Stockings that just reach to the middle to upper thigh and are held up by elastic suspenders.

Vanilla Sex Noun

Vanilla belongs in the kitchen.

While the term suggests an old favorite, it also implies sex that's dull or unadventurous. Most people would agree that the most popular vanilla sex position is missionary.

Warming Lubricant Noun

Is it hot in here?

Designed to add warmth when applied to the body. Perfect for foreplay, massages and penetration with toys, fingers or the penis.

Waterproof Toys Noun

Hello, rubber ducky.

Sex toys (usually vibrators) that can be used underwater. Up until recently, this has been women’s little secret, but the recent boom in waterproof vibrators acknowledges that tubs, showers, and pools are great places to have sex, whether alone or with a partner. 

Whip Verb

Strike while it’s hot.

To strike a person with repeated strokes of a strap, flogger or rod; also refers to a sex toy specifically used for inflicting pain or pleasure on a person.