Confidence and power are the ultimate seductive forces. If your lover enjoys being the boss - and you are turned on by being dominated - let her take control and watch your arousal levels soar. Whether you’re starting to play with a bit of light bondage or experimenting with S&M, by enacting your fantasies together, you’ll enrich your relationship and hit lofty heights of pleasure that you didn’t even know were possible.

Like any hobby, bedroom play requires you to get set up with a bit of gear. This is where you can get creative and splurge on a selection of sultry garments, bondage accessories and pleasure toys she can wield on your body, according to her will.

Start with a few sexy lingerie items from brands like Something Wicked, a UK-based label that offers steamy mesh and leather lingerie items that hint at fetish and Pleasure State with their range of ultra-erotic garments.

What you wear depends on where your imagination - and your fantasy - takes you. The possibilities are endless, from leather and lace thongs, tasselled suspenders with matching sheer stockings, lace bodysuits, cupless bras, and other garments in shades of black, deep crimson or even animal prints, depending on your preference.

After you select a few appropriate outfits, you’ll be ready to start choosing the toys and props with which to build your scene. Pleasure toys can help her tease and entice you while lace and satin blindfolds and soft, leather cuffs will keep you begging for more. The Fraulein Kink brand takes it up a notch further with their lamb leather spanking crop, blush-coloured bondage lasso, and black satin handcuffs with detachable gold and gunmetal chain for hauling you around into the appropriate positions.

Where you go with these games depends entirely on your fantasies and the realms of desire each of you wants to explore. Have fun!