As you likely know, climaxes come in different forms and intensities, with some much easier to achieve than others. And while some can be depended on when you just want to get to the point of pleasure, consider this your primer course on some of the different orgasms on offer, just in case.
The most basic of the bunch, because it’s so well documented and understood – just stimulate, and then stand back!
No matter how it’s done; hand job, blow job, straight up PIV (penis-in-vagina) penetration, what you’re actually seeing during penile orgasm are two distinct things: orgasm and ejaculation.
They’re so hand-in-hand (more like ‘gland-in-hand’ HA) that we think they’re the same thing, but did you know that orgasm and ejaculation can actually happen independent of each other?
A guy can ejaculate without orgasm — think wet dreams — and then there’s having an orgasm without ejaculating, which is called a ‘dry orgasm’. It’s apparently a sought-after thing in some cultures as well as for practitioners of tantric sex, due to the decreased refractory period that follows, essentially meaning that male multiple orgasms are possible.
Home to more than 8,000 nerve endings, the clit is, for many, the go-to source for reaching climax due mainly to it being made specifically for that purpose.
Even though most people can climax clitorally doesn’t mean they all do it the same way; some need the subtle swipes of a tongue (or a cunnilingus-adept sex toy) in order to orgasm, while others subject their clit to a good thumping from wand massagers do get the job done.
Of course, many of these methods only serve to stimulate the very outermost part of the clitoral structure. When you take a sonic toy like SONA, you can discover depths to the clitoral orgasm you never knew about.
Named after Dr. Ernst Grafenberg, who didn’t find it but just devoted a lot of study to it, the G-spot is that magic ‘button’ along the frontal (anterior) wall of the vagina. It’s an area of tissue about 2cm in diameter that, when rubbed the right way, is capable of delivering some very enjoyable orgasms.
And despite there being so many people who are capable of reaching climax by stimulating this area, it’s still somehow being debated that it even exists. Le sigh.
Anyways, we’ll proceed by saying that it’s totally a thing, and you can stimulate yours (if you aren’t already) by focusing on the frontal wall of your vagina about 5 to 7 centimeters from the vaginal opening. Feel some skin there that’s slightly rougher than the rest? That’s about where it is.
You can try to apply pressure with your fingers, however a more comfortable option would be to try out a G-spot massager that is designed purposefully for the task. What you can expect from a G-spot orgasm is a less intense climax than a clitoral orgasm, however one that is longer-lasting.
AKA the ‘male G-spot’, the prostate is a walnut-sized gland that produces some of the fluid that eventually becomes semen, and when stimulated can provide a real leg-trembler of an orgasm.
Like G-spot stimulation, prostate massage can be done with a finger, but to be sure you’re applying even pressure to the entire area, a purpose-made prostate vibrator will do the trick and turn you into a P-spot play pro in no time – just make sure that if you’re using a a sex toy for prostate stimulation that you’re using one with a flared base for added safety.
The Holy Grail or the unicorn of climaxes, multiple orgasms are exactly as they’re named: orgasms that can go on and on, one rolling into another for a much more sustained climax.
So how do you do it? It’s the same as trying to get to Carnegie Hall: you gotta practice! The defined muscle contractions that occur during orgasm can, with pelvic floor training, be controlled to provide a more prolonged pleasure. Other methods include the practice of edging, where you bring yourself to the brink of orgasm to learn your body’s subtle cues and enhance your stamina in order to work your way towards that multiple O.
And even if it doesn’t happen, at least the training can be very fun, and in the case of Kegel exercises, very beneficial for your sensual health!
More commonly thought of as stimulating the clitoris and the G-spot at the same time, a blended orgasm is a term that can be applied to pleasuring two erogenous zones at once. It can take some coordination, like a ‘pat your head, rub your tummy’ kind of situation, but the results can be pretty earth-shaking. Mix and match your pleasures from the listed O’s above and see how many you can check off your list!