You asked, we answered (with a bit of help from Sex Educator & Intimacy Coach Georgia Grace).
Does every woman have a g-spot or only some?
Yes every woman does! Your g-spot is unique, no two are the same! So it’s vital to learn about your body and how pleasure feels for you. Not only is your g-spot one of a kind, it also must be awakened in order to experience the full potential of deeper, longer and more intense orgasms. Rather than the g-spot being just a spot, its an area that is in fact part of the clitoral network. This region can vary from woman to woman which explains why it can often be difficult to locate but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. Instead of searching for it during partnered sexual activity, it’s easier to locate the g-spot through self-exploration.
Is it harder to climax as women get older?
Not necessarily and not for everyone. There are certain biochemical and biophysical changes that naturally occur, but this won’t be the same for everyone. Women may have fewer muscle contractions during orgasm, which may result in a less “intense” orgasm as the pubococcygeal (PC) muscle weakens with age, but this can be strengthened with kegel exercises.
How do you keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship?
Keep the spark alive with an intentional practice of connection, presence and openness. Fulfilling sex is about how intouch you are with your needs and desires as well as your partner’s. We published a story on this, click here to read.
I’ve been married for a long time and all of a sudden I’m finding other people attractive. Is this normal?
This is human! It is normal to be attracted to another person outside of your relationship. It’s healthy to acknowledge the attraction, how your body is feeling and hold space for these responses. There can be a point at which attraction can overstep the boundaries of your relationship, and that depends on how you respond to it.
Say exactly that, you enjoy sex with your partner AND you want to explore toys and accessories. Perhaps he’s been curious too? What toys would he like to explore? It may be awkward having these conversations at first, but awkwardness and clunkiness is a part of sex.
I’m interested in trying bondage. Where do I start?
Start by taking a class, there are some incredible practitioners out there offering beginners classes for bondage. Otherwise, try some entry level pieces like Porte-à-Vie's Velvet or Silk Ties.
I just had a baby and I’ve lost my confidence and libido. Will I get it back?
After giving birth, several different factors come together to zap your sex drive: fatigue, body confidence, time, but the biggest factor of all: hormones. Will things ever get back to normal? Absolutely. With time, intentional practice and awareness you can reclaim your libido. To start, balance your hormones through wholefood diets, regular exercise, seeking qualified support and inviting pleasure into your life (this doesn’t have to be sexual pleasure!)
What are kegel balls and why should I use them?
Kegel balls have been used for centuries to strengthen vaginal and pelvic floor muscles. The small, weighted balls come in a variety of different weights and sizes to help you train your muscles and increase blood flow to your genitals — both of which can do wonders for your internal pleasure.
What is the best lingerie for sex?
The lingerie that makes YOU feel sensual. Choose lingerie that feels good on your skin, makes you feel sensual, is a pleasure to put on and a pleasure to take off. Click here to explore our lingerie collection.
How do I know if my girlfriend has orgasmed or is about to? What are the physical signs?
Ask her! Every body responds differently to pleasure, so rather than looking for signs, ask!