The poor G-spot; it’s just hanging out trying to do its thing and help people have some awesome orgasms, and yet every once and a while, people like to dispute its existence.
One of the issues with the G-spot, or rather, the issue with definitively finding it on each and every person’s body, is that it’s not exactly just a spot, nor is it located in exactly the same place or have the same amount of sensitivity in every person.
The G-spot is usually described as an area approximately the size of an American nickel (about 2 cm in diameter) located 2 to 3 inches (5 to 7 cm) inside the vagina on front wall (think closes to your bellybutton-side) from the vaginal opening that feels slightly rougher than the rest of the vaginal canal.
That may seem pretty clear, but when an unaroused vagina is usually only 3-4 inches long, that inch makes quite a difference (even if it expands up to 200% when turned on).
If you’re already found your ‘sweet spot’ whether by a specially-sculpted G-spot vibrator like SORAYA or through some patient ‘come-hither’ finger attention from a determined partner, then you’re probably eager to incorporate some of that fantastic stimulation into penetrative partnered sex.
Here are some positions that are worth a shot to see if they hit the spot, but don’t be afraid to switch up angles and speeds to make it perfect targeted for you!
The great thing about this position is that you can play around with quite a lot of angles to make you’re getting G-spot stimulation in the exact right spot. By keeping your (the receiving partner’s) elbows locked and arms straight, you can arch your back at different angles, taking into account things like how tall your partner is when kneeling, and whether their penis or dildo is pointing upward or downward. It can help to put some extra pillows under your knees to help raise things up!
Because of the increased depth this position affords, the topping partner is going to have to be a bit careful for two reasons: firstly, if they’ve got a large penis or are using a longer toy, too enthusiastic of thrusts can lead to uncomfortable poking of the cervix. Secondly, if penetrating you with a penis while you are switching your hips up and down looking for the perfect G-spot hitting angle, they may end up finishing before you get to where you want to be. Of course, that might just mean it’s time to try edging!
Often called ‘reverse cowgirl,’ this receiver on top sex position is good for using your partner as your personal pleasure pole as you lean forward or back to find your perfect position to ride off into the sunset (or sunrise, as it may be). They can assist using their hand to support the base of their penis or dildo to hit the right angle as you lift yourself up and down off your heels while leaning back, but we also love adding a cock ring like TOR 2. Placed with the vibrating part downward (on the testicles) you can lean forward and slide back and forth while your partner controls it using their phone!
If you’re not used to being in the driver’s seat, this position can take a little getting used to in terms of finding your rhythm and sustaining it. Your partner can hold onto your calves to help stabilize you if it helps, and if they lean against a headboard this can also make it easier. If you find yourself getting tired, they can also act as a power bottom and control the thrusting, but this works most easily if you’re significantly smaller than them, and of course, if they haven’t been skipping squats or other exercises for sex!
No one is saying you can’t hit the G-spot in the missionary position, simply that a few adjustments can make it a lot more effective. First off, by putting the receiver’s legs on their partner’s shoulders, they allow the thrusting partner to lean away slightly and use one of their hands – the one not holding onto limbs – to make sure their penis or dildo is aiming upward.
This position is all about finding an angle that works, and the angle that works for you might be one where your partner’s face is a million miles away – not always ideal. Also, if you have joint or mobility issues, all that kneeling time can be a bit much for thrusting partners, though some sort can be lent by the receiving partner if they put their hands on the back of their partner’s knees – and they aren’t ticklish!
Despite the fact that there are so many different ways to have an orgasm, it’s easy to get caught up with ‘hitting the spot.’ While we would never discourage anyone from diligent spelunking to find their G-spot, it’s important to focus on what feels good in the moment, and all those other clichés about enjoying the journey instead of the destination!