According to Dr Christian Jessen: “Anorgasmia is a very real condition which, simply put, means that you’re unable to orgasm. A recent study in the journal of sexual medicine found that women only orgasm 63 per cent of the time with a familiar partner, compared with 85 per cent of men. But if you are struggling to climax, fear not, because there are ways to boost your chances”.
Dr Jessen says: “Masturbation is key when it comes to being comfortable with our genitals and our sexual responsiveness. If you struggle to enjoy these sensations on your own it’s likely you’ll struggle even more with a partner. Studies have shown that women who once struggled to orgasm during sex in the missionary position were far more likely to after they were encouraged to try a little solo love. Grab a mirror and explore yourself, which will make it easier to give the right hints to your partner.”
“According to information from the American Sociological Review, the likelihood of achieving orgasm during vaginal intercourse increased by 18 percent if the woman also stimulated herself by hand and by nine percent if she received oral sex before intercourse. Everyone’s different so find what works for you.”
“The biggest mood killer in the bedroom is a lack of communication. Don’t assume your partner is a mind reader who will instinctively know exactly which of your buttons to push. Be direct and tell them exactly what you’d like for them to do.”
“One recent survey found that women had just a 32 per cent chance of climaxing with a partner they’d never had sex with before. And that figure jumped up to 51 per cent if they were sleeping with a partner they’d been intimate with up to six times in the past.” One night stands also call for better safe sex, so remember if it's not on it's not on?
“Some people experience what’s called ‘spectatoring’ during sex. That happens when we ‘fall out’ of the moment, as you lie there and instead think negative thoughts, such as, ‘Do I look fat in this position?’ or you start worrying about work stress and deadlines instead. Try to live in the moment and focus on the here and now. And if you really can’t concentrate because you’ve more pressing things at hand, delay lovemaking until you’ve got a clear head.”
“Most women require clitoral stimulation during intercourse to orgasm, and that contact doesn’t happen with every sexual position. Try lots of different positions to find one that works for you.”
“According to research scientists at Indiana University, women actually experience better orgasms with age. As far as the findings go, 61 percent of women ages 18 to 24 report having had an orgasm the last time they had sex, while 65 percent of women in their 30s and 70 percent of women in their 40s and 50s reported the same (…) In addition, older women are more sexually experienced, therefore better knowing their body’s actions, reactions and pleasure points.”
“Doing so-called Kegel exercises strengthen the pelvic floor and lead to stronger vaginal muscles, which in turn leads to more intense―and more regular―orgasms” An easy way to stimulate your pelvic floor, LELO suggests, is to use a pleasure training system such as LUNA Beads Mini or LUNABeads.
Dr Jessen also highlights the importance of staying healthy to ensure the blood flows to the genitals “Quit smoking, eat well, stretch and take part in cardiovascular exercises which strengthen the heart muscles, such as running, swimming or riding a bike.”
“By varying your breathing intake from slow and deep to short and shallow, you can actually boost sexual arousal and improve your chances of orgasming.”
“While a drink may make you most adventurous, it won’t actually improve sex. The ethanol in alcohol has been shown to reduce organ sensitivity and arousal while also reduction lubrication in women, which will clearly hinder an orgasm.”